Fort Refuge - Abuse Survivors Support Group

Welcome to Fort!

Everyone here, from the founding administrators to the newest members, is on a journey of healing from abuse we suffered: child abuse, incest, sexual assault, rape, domestic violence, ritual abuse, or psychological and verbal abuse. We feel that all types of abuse are damaging, and we do not minimize any person's experiences. It is our goal to reach out to as many fellow survivors as we can with compassion, understanding, and encouragement. This healing journey we all are on can feel overwhelming and isolating at times. We offer peer support and resources to help you tackle some of the difficult issues faced by abuse survivors, as well as the opportunity to give support to others.

The inner strength of people who, like you, have survived a traumatic or abusive encounter is truly amazing, and we hope that you will find your place among us and feel a sense of belonging here. Many of us battle PTSD. Many are DID/MPD. Many struggle with Self Injury, Eating Disorders and Addictions. We are each at different places on this journey, but there is comfort in knowing that we are not alone. As we share our stories, thoughts and feelings, confusions and discoveries, philosophical ponderings and raw rants, poems and artwork, light-hearted jokes and craft projects, in essence - our strength, our journey is enhanced by what we learn from each other. Fort Refuge is all of us, as a whole, including you. Welcome!

Library News:
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My abuser and me: So much in common

To my abuser. Have decided it's time to get a bit of balance into my thinking about me and you. Truth is we share so much...sometimes reacted to some of it in different, sometimes in similar ways. Both grew up without the parental support we deserved - you because your father died in the Spanish flu epidemic and your mother did not cope well on her own...tended to put her kids second as she sought to find a new husband and life for herself. Me? Don't really need to go into details about your and my relationship (you know that well enough) but, it was not all down to your mother, my mother (your wife)... (keep reading)
Latest additions:

05-14-2016 - 7 Characteristics of Spiritually Abusive Groups - a list of some of the traits that seem to be commonly present in groups that practice religious abuse and usually lacking outside of them, to see whether these traits are what allows for abuse to happen.
05-12-2016 - Relationships Chess - simple, but cool technique for evaluating your relationships.
05-11-2016 - 9 ways to be accountable when you've been abusive - interesting feminist article on taking responsibility for abusing others, even if you're a survivor.
04-29-2016 - Child Abuse - refresh of an old page on what's child abuse, what forms it takes, how common it is, etc.
04-17-2016 - Psych hospitals - what happens inside, what is Baker Act, difference between ER stay and admission, between inpatient and outpatient treatment, and what to pack when you're going inpatient.

Abuse Resources
Crisis Links:
See our list of hotlines, chatlines, and organizations that can help if you or someone you know is in crisis or needs help escaping abuse. It's organized by country and type of emergency. We care, but we're people just like you, who have been hurt and are trying to recover from the impact of this trauma. Anything you read on this website is an opinion only, based on personal experience of the author, and should not be used in place of counseling, therapy, or medical or legal advice.

Calm Room: