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Ongoing Abuse

Child Abuse
Child abuse means abuse inflicted on a child (someone under 18yo) by an adult. It can be physical, sexual, emotional/verbal, or neglect, and usually is perpetrated by someone the child knows: a parent, a teacher, a babysitter, a neighbor, etc. Child abuse is a crime. If you know of a child who might be abused - please call one of the numbers below.
Hotline numbers1-800-4-A-CHILD
1-800-231-6946 & 1-800-621-4000 (Runaway)
1-800-448-4663 (National Youth Crisis)
1-800-299-6504 (School Violence)
1-800-400-0900 & 1-800-522-8336 (Teen Hotlines)
1-866-331-9474 (Teen Dating Abuse)
1-800-843-5678 (missingkids.org)
boystown.orgVarious programs for kids and their parents, aimed to prevent child abuse. Hotlines, shelters, outreach programs, classes, support groups, etc.
covenanthouse.orgVarious programs for homeless & trafficked teens and kids.
1800runaway.orgNational runaway safeline, for both teens and parents
Child Protective ServicesContact information of CPS in your area, the place to call when you're concerned about a child's safety.
Sex Offender RegistryAfter 7yo Megan Kanka was raped and murdered by someone with two prior convictions for sexually assaulting little girls, the law was passed that allows concerned citizens to see if there's a sex offender living in their area.
teenlineonline.org(run by teens)
Rape and Sexual Assault
Rape means non-consentual sex (vaginal or not), where the perpetrator forces it on the victim against their will and the victim is helpless to escape.
Hotline numbers1-800-656-4673
1-800-656-HOPE
1-800-7-VOICE-8
1-800-877-7252
1-888-NOT-2-LATE (Emergency Contraception)
1-800-4-OPTIONS (Pregnancy)
1-800-227-8922 (STD)
1-800-342-2437 (AIDS)
1-800-772-9100 (Abortion)
1-800-5WE-CARE (Abortion Trauma)
1-800-FYI-CALL (Lawyer Referral)
rainn.org
loveisrespect.org
plannedparenthood.org
free HIV testing
0Sex Offender Registry
RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network) chat hotline - instant chat with a trained volunteer, no registration, works same way as calling a phone hotline.
Domestic Violence
Domestic violence means abuse inflicted on one adult by another, while both live together in the same household. Most often it's physical abuse by an intimate partner, but it can also be abuse of elderly parents by adult children, etc.
Hotline numbers1-800-537-2238
1-800-313-1310
1-800-799-SAFE
1-800-832-1901(Gay Males)
1-800-FYI-CALL (Lawyer Referral)
hotpeachpages.netInternational directory of all sorts of 3d help available to victims of domestic violence: shelters, lawyers, therapy, child care, support groups, etc
blainn.com38 questions to ask yourself to see if you're being abused, and 40 questions to ask yourself to see if you're abusing someone. Priceless resource.
Domestic Violence hotline, chatline, and plenty of info and resources - instant chat with a trained volunteer, no registration, works same way as calling a phone hotline.
Australian rape and DV chat line - instant chat with a trained volunteer, no registration, works same way as calling a phone hotline.
LGBT Issues 1-800-850-8078
1-888-THE-GLNH
1-800-616-HATE (LGBT Hate Crimes)
GLBT National Youth Talkline

Emotional Crisis

Suicide
Every 40 seconds someone commits suicide somewhere in the world. You aren't alone, and the chances are there are a few people reading this very line right now. Please call the numbers or use chat lines below - people care and want to help, but can't reach you.
Hotline numbers1-800-621-4000
1-800-273-TALK
1-800-850-8078
afsp.orgAmerican Foundation for Suicide Prevention - resources, events, support groups, etc
befrienders.orgworldwide directory of suicide hotlines
metanoia.orggreat page that saved many lives, read it first
suicide.orglarge site with basic info, very anti-suicide but warm and friendly
lostallhope.comneutral site with info like lethality of methods plus personal stories
Suicide Prevention Lifeline - instant chat with a trained volunteer, no registration, works same way as calling a phone hotline.
Alternative suicide and general crisis chatline.
Catholic CharitiesChristian support for suicide or any other crises.
Mental Health
Hotlines, chatlines, find-a-therapist, various other organizations that can help if you're struggling with mental health but aren't acutely suicidal.
Hotline numbers1-800-447-4474
1-800-969-6642
1-800-64-PANIC
1-800-DONT-CUT (Self Injury)
1-800-931-2237 & 1-888-236-1188 (Eating Disorders)
1-800-841-1515 (Food Addiction)
psychologytoday.comprobably the largest directory of mental health professionals in North America
nami.orgNational Alliance on Mental Illness, they offer various resources and you can email them if you need help figuring out how to get support
24/7 free chat about anything that bothers you, with someone who will listen unconditionally. No minors and no crises.
Addictions
You aren't alone, many survivors struggle with addictions, there's help.
Hotline numbers1-800-378-4435
1-888-644-6432
1-800-662-HELP
1-800-BE-SOBER
1-800-COCAINE
1-800-992-9239 (cocaine)
1-800-468-6933 (Ecstasy)
1-800-269-4327 (Inhalants)
1-800-766-6779 (Marijuana)
1-800-344-2666 / 1-800-356-9996 (Al-Anon / Alateen)
1-888-55-4COAS (Children of Alcoholics)
1-800-438-MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving)

Tech Support

Members
Things like guidelines, FAQ, TOS, how to contact us, etc
GuidelinesOur community rules that all of us have to follow.
Chats' scheduleTimes, locations, and topics of next hosted chats.
Lost passwordsLink to recover your account password if you forgot it.
FAQAll sorts of tech questions on how to use forums and chat: where to post, how to change your signature, what are the castles, etc.
Speak To ModsOpen to registered users only - a place to reach moderators if something makes it uncomfortable for you to use the site: someone is bothering you, you can't find your inbox, aren't sure why your post was moved, etc. Posts are visible to you and mod team only, and it's the best way to communicate with us.
Visitors
Things like guidelines, FAQ, TOS, how to contact us, etc
IntroBasic info on what is abuse and how Fort is supposed to help with the aftermath of it.
GuidelinesOur community rules that all of us have to follow.
Public ForumNo registration necessary, feel free to post as much or as little as you wish. Helpful for those who don't really want to join our community at this time, and for those who can't, for example secondary survivors.
SitemapList of all the pages on this website.
Contact usA way for you to get in touch with site admins; please keep in mind that we are not counselors, we only maintain this site.
Online Safety
A few pages with basics on how to stay safe online and avoid getting cyberstalked.
Cyberstalking: Why and HowWho engages in online stalking, why, how, and what to do if you are a victim of internet harassment. Real life examples and links for further reading.
Cyberstalking: Staying Safe On Abuse Support SitesPractical tips on avoiding online harassment, stalking, and trolls, while using online support groups for abuse survivors.
Top Five Scams On Abuse Support SitesReal life examples of cons that abuse survivors are especially vulnerable to while using online support groups.
Seven Tips On Choosing The Right Online Support GroupEvery support site is different, but every survivor is different too, and at different points in time we're at different places in our healing journey. This page describes basic things to look at, when choosing a support site that would be right for you.
Is there a better site for me?
No site works for everyone; if Fort isn't a good match for you, see if the sites below might work better.
7cups.comInstant chat with a "listener" about anything that bothers you. You can become a listener too, if you want to. Would work a lot better than Fort if you want to chat NOW, are looking to talk to people one-on-one, and like to give/receive advice. It's against our guidelines to tell anyone what to do, think, or feel - we believe in letting people make their own choices.
malesurvivor.orgWe have a lot of male members at Fort, but some things can feel too awkward to discuss in a mixed gender community. If that's how you feel - malesurvivor.org is a busy site that has men only, so you can have some privacy for those extra sensitive issues.
christiansurvivors.comOnline community for Christian survivors of any form of abuse. We recognize that faith is a powerful healing tool for many people, but Fort is a non-denominational site, many of us have had bad experiences with religion, so we limit all religious references to one forum folder only. If you like to bring up religion in most conversations (or if you're just more comfortable with people of the same faith) - christiansurvivors.com might be a good solution.
pandys.orgGreat site for survivors of rape or child sexual abuse: busy community and very good resources. Guidelines differ from Fort: no DID allowed, telling others what to do is encouraged, blocking people who get on your nerves is not allowed, foul language is OK within reasonable limits; there's a forum for supporters (aka secondary survivors) too.
survivorship.orgCommunity for survivors of ritual abuse, mind control, and torture. Membership is paid, but the site has some free resources too. We have a forum folder for religious abuse, but you have to be actively participating in other forums for a month to gain access to it, and the topic is off-limit in chat. Moreover, we believe that, although abuse perps often claim to have supernatural powers or secret technologies to manipulate your mind, in reality "mind control" is just not possible.
loveshack.orgCommunity focused on relationships, including (but not limited to) abusive ones. If you don't really want to leave your partner, but just have problems with how you're being treated (e.g. s/he lies, cheats, drinks, plays computer games too much, etc) - or if you're heartbroken after a breakup and don't know if you'll ever find love again - loveshack.org is a good place to discuss these issues.
psychopathfree.comCommunity dedicated to discussing psychopaths/narcissists in your life: learning to spot them, guesstimating what they are thinking and why they act the way they do, finding ways to manipulate their behavior, etc. We do not believe in this at Fort, and it's against our guidelines to talk of anyone other than yourself, so if this is what you're into - psychopathfree.com would be a better match.

Only the wisest and stupidest of men never change.
~ Confucius
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